Monday, September 8, 2008

2 Weeks Down, 8 To Go

Thank you guys so much for the support about my husband being gone, and for the kind words of thanks for what he does. Thank you also for the excitement over Baby Girl.

J and I were just never made for separations. We don't do them well at all. When we are together, and he's home from work, we just rarely spend time apart. Even if we're doing separate things (maybe he's reading a magazine and I'm writing a letter), he wants me in the same room, on the same couch preferrably. Long ago in the first months of our marriage I abandoned what I thought was a good use of my time: getting laundry folded while he watched tv. While I do that occasionally, I try to keep it short, because he would much rather me be snuggled right next to him that getting something done. And my mom always taught us the importance of putting our husbands first, over our own priorities. When we go to bed at night, we always curl up with just about every inch touching the other person. And as we shift positions at night, if we end up away from each other, we at least leave our feet touching the other's or with our hands held together. We hate not to have physical contact!!! Ever since being married, ever single morning we've showered together when possible. We eat all dinners at the table together, most breakfasts, and occasionally lunches if he happens to be home. He may only have a 6 hour day to work, but sometimes he'll text me to meet him for lunch just so we don't have to be separated that long....

Are you getting the picture? We're still crazy love-birds just as if we were newly in love. It's the companionship, the friendship, the sharing every part of life together. I could care less if his being gone means I have to do the yard (ok, J hired someone this time but I have in the past) or finanaces or change my own flat (so fine, someone helped me there on Friday). I am very capable and not at all intimidated. But it's being without this man who is my best friend and life partner in everything. That's why I email ever day, I send a personal letter every day, and when we can webcam, we will do it as many hours as his schedule allow. We got 4 hours on Sunday (usually we get 2 every other day)!!! Ah what bliss... Top that off with a last-minute win in the Panthers vs Chargers game, and it was a pretty swell day.

I went to see my soon-to-be brother-in-law graduate from Army basic training on Friday in Ft Benning, 2 hrs from where I live. I got the flat on the way home. I was quite prepared to change it, J having shown me twice how do to that. But help came along so I just watched. :)

I hate every piece of clothing currently, except long pretty dresses. I hate that someone thought the Bella Band was a good idea. I am just now getting uncomfy in my regular pants/skirts, and it feels much better to leave the top buttons unbuttoned. Yet the stupid BB doens't do squat in leaving you a nice smooth profile like I want. Sure, it keeps your pants up, but your options are then limited to very full babydoll shirts to cover the ugly waistline. I want the pretty smooth belly, people! Bleh. I just don't fit maternity wear yet. Suggestions???

You're all the BEST!

11 comments:

LJ said...

I totally get it. We're the same way - dorks in love...big time.

Kim said...

I think it's ADORABLE that you two are so crazy in love. Stay that way. Always. I bet that you are both already completely gaga over this little princess. She will be so loved.

Hang in there, girly.

Oh... and we're in Athens now! R was supposed to start Supply School in Oct., but now he won't be until Jan... so we'll be here until around June or so.

Heather said...

I know what you mean. When my DH goes away on business I don't sleep well at all without him next to me. We've been married 13 years and we still love to play what we call "be by me".

Congratulations on finding out you're having a little girl! And thank you to your husband for all he does in the service of our country.

roses30 said...

Hi, I just found your blog after I was looking for IVF success stories. My husband and I have just started the process and I was happy to find your site! My husband was in the navy for 7 years and deployed for the first 6 months of our marriage, and I was a mess, I was definitely not made to be a navy wife. So I know how you're feeling. You are such a strong person for being able to endure this. I wish you the best and congratulations on finally getting your morning sickness!

Alex and Jill said...

Today is a day that we should all stop and thank God for people like your husband, those who are fighting for our freedom. I admire women like yourself as well who are here at home waiting and supporting your husbands in what they do. That's a hard job in itself.

Praying for your husband's safety and I'm always praying for you and that baby girl inside you. :)

((HUGS))

Samantha said...

You and your husband have a beautiful relationship - hang in there through this separation.

I'm also using the bella band right now, but it's tough to figure out which tops to put with it, since a lot of my tops are too short. Elastic waist pants are my favs for the moment.

Kenya said...

Yes what is up with the Bella Band?! What a waste of $$

Searching said...

So, how are things going?

Jules said...

Been thinking about you - hope things are ok

InfertileMadWoman said...

Thinking about you sweetie.... hoping all is ok!!!

Glenna Marshall said...

You okay?? I've been wondering how you are doing!